Lady in the street and a WHORE in the bed!

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If you are a woman you have heard the following terms before SLUT, WHORE, bitch and SKANK.  It’s becoming a cultural phenomenon to call a woman a bitch, in fact some women call each other this as a pet name or a term of endearment.  When did this happen?  When did we become bitches and how did we change from ladies?  Also why can’t we be a NAUGHTY WHORE and a LADY all at the same time and still be respected in the morning?
Lady, who you calling lady?
 
 A man needs us to be a naughty girl in the bedroom but our cultural standards tells us something different.  We were told at a young age to “KEEP OUR LEGS CLOSED” yet when we find ourselves in a committed relationship or married we are constantly needing to keep them open and in most cases we enjoy it! So we must live a double life, a life where we must be a LADY IN THE STREET, BUT A WHORE IN THE BED!  So today let’s discuss the ideologies behind what makes us a lady and what makes us a whore and how we find balance and also why the stereotypes and the double standards and the cultural aspects behind it.
 
First we must discuss what it means to be a lady, according to most dictionaries online a lady is defined as follows;a woman who is refined, polite, and well-spoken.  Well I didn’t realize that a woman who is a “whore” or a slut couldn’t be well spoken and or refined for that matter. Did you?
 

Slut, whore, WHATEVER!

Second let’s discuss what the term whore actually means or what the definition is according to dictionary.com:a woman who engages in promiscuous sexual intercourse.  Granted I didn’t include the whole definition as in the prostitution part because we are not talking about that terminology here we are talking about a woman who is not getting paid for her services at all.  She is in a committed relationship ie; married or with a partner.  So is she being promiscuous when she is with her so called partner?  I would think not.  So it really comes down to the actual ACT of being a whore!  So then we should dive deeper into the subject.  What does a whore do that a partner doesn’t?
 
A whore is willing to do just about anything sexually for a price.  There is no limits,no boundaries, she is uninhibited! Men in essence want us to let go of our inhibitions and go CRAZY sexually.  This is what they need and I believe this is what they mean when they say they want a “whore in the bed”.  Yet it still remains a mystery of what uninhibited sex really and truly is.  What does that mean, what is it that men want sexually?  What can we learn from a whore?
 
A whore will gladly give a man a blow job with no questions asked. 
A whore will let the man take control and enjoy it.
A whore will not complain about the kids, money, housework and his “issues”.
A whore will try different sexual positions.
A whore will let him live out his sexual fantasies that he might not tell anyone else.

You whore!

A whore will let him fuck her in the ass or in any way he wants, without any “issues” or problems.

A whore will take his money.
A whore will leave when it’s all done.

A whore will not give him any companionship.

A whore will not give him love.
A whore will not give him any type of commitment.

A whore will not support him.

So as you can see a whore can and will satisfy his desires and fantasies SEXUALLY, but when it comes to his “other” needs, his emotional needs, that’s when the “LADY” steps in.  This is where women need to find BALANCE.  We can and should be a lady, but of course if you are any kind of sexual being and are truly in love with your partner you will find a way to be that WHORE in the bedroom.
 
There is a real problem with society though when it comes to being a whore.  It’s not like you can walk around looking like a whore, so “ladies” I recommend keeping this inside the home.  As we all know there are cultural stigmas and double standards out there that we can not get around. 
 

DOUBLE STANDARD:

 
Why is it that men can and do sleep around and they can be proud of this fact.  But when women do we are called sluts, WHORES, and or skanks?  It goes back to that old saying of “keep your legs closed” at least in my opinion. I am sure there are boys that grow up to be men that have heard this out of their fathers and or mothers mouth.  Hence the reason it carries from one generation to another.  Women are frowned upon if they are sexually active or “promiscuous” but if you look at any type of media men are often portrayed and celebrated when they conquer more than one woman at a time.  How is this fair?  Why can’t women be sexually active? Why are we considered bad?  Because deep down you want us to be LADIES not whores!  So we, meaning women end up living in a constant confused state.  We want to please you!  We want to make you happy sexually and emotionally.  So tell us what you want!  We try to be the lady, we try to be the whore, but we end up sometimes losing ourselves in the process.  So with that said we need to find balance.  So what we need from you is communication.  Tell us what you need from us sexually, emotionally and everything in between.  If you can’t literally communicate these desires and these emotions write them down if it will help.  We want to know!
 

Ladies:

What I think we need to do is stop worrying so much about what society tell us to do or what we think they think of us.  Our goal should be to make ourselves and our partners happy sexually and emotionally.  We need to start communicating better about our needs as well.  I know we also have a hard time telling him what we need sexually, hell we don’t have a difficult time telling him our “issues” or a complaint but when it comes to sex we are mute most of the time and I am talking in general and maybe this is where we could be a bit more “whore-ish” tell him how you want it.  Tell him to fuck you.  Get dirty, get kinky and get as naughty as your thoughts are when you are alone and fucking yourself and you know ladies exactly what I am talking about!  There is no need to be prude any longer, we have hit a new beginning sexually.  It’s okay to be your man’s whore in fact embrace it. Get on your knees and suck his cock, you know he goes down on you doesn’t he?  Why not return the favor? Stick his dick where he wants it and yes I know I am being blunt and probably you think I am being a bit nasty but we have to stop being so lady like all the time and just get raw otherwise we will stay in the stigma where our mother’s want us to be.  Outgrow the stigma and be that naughty little whore your man needs you to be and in the morning be proud and be a lady and come home again and fuck him like the naughty little whore that you want to be.

Enjoy being his naughty girl, embrace it!

 

Final Thoughts:

 
It’s okay to be a lady and a whore!
Find the balance.
Don’t be so prude ladies.
Undo the cultural stigma.
Communicate with one another your sexual needs and desires.
 
 
 
Have a great week! 
Gabriella D.
Owner/Hotlit Books
Author of  Erotic Hotel Series available now at Amazon.
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